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Urbandictionary.com user "OneBadAsp" defines the "Nice Guy" trope as, "
A badge of martyrdom. Men who spend their most of their time whining about how women “just want to date jerks”. They tend to befriend women with the expectation that women owe them something more than friendship, then get all pissed off when the women tells them she’s not interested. Often going after women who are already in relationships, they misrepresent their intentions and try to use emotional manipulation and the facade of friendship as an excuse to get closer to them and score with them."
We all know men like this, hell, you might even BE a man like this. However, that doesn't mean your schtick is cute, nor does it make you a good human being. Media has been pushing this trope on unsuspecting audiences for years, further normalizing this disgusting behavior in society. The use of this trope in television is to try to disprove the age old saying pushed on us since one can remember, "Nice guys finish last." However, in the company of the following men, they deserve to lose, and most times burn in hell.
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Ross Gellar, FriendsObject of Obsession: Rachel Green"9th grade. The obsession starts." Ross has always been in love with his little sister Monica's best friend, Rachel Green. We all thought it was cute how he got dressed up in his dad's tux to take Rachel to prom when he thought she was getting stood up, but Ross' entitled behavior towards Rachel is exactly why he's ONTD's #1 Hated "Nice Guy."
Ross bid his time through Rachel's healing post-Barry and through her shitty relationship with Pablo. When he left a thoughtful birthday present while he was away on a dig in China, it was the final token of support that Rachel needed to give in to Ross' love. What ensued from that was cheating (let's not forget Ross kissed Rachel while he was still with Julie), jealousy (singing telegram anyone?), more cheating (Gunther was a hero for telling Rach about the copy girl), "WE WERE ON A BREAK", a cheerleader with a busted lip, "I, Ross, take thee Rachel", drunken elopements in Vegas, Ross REFUSING TO ANNUL THEIR MARRIAGE AND HIDING IT FROM RACHEL, knocking Rachel up (although she did come on to him that night), flirting with the woman at Toys'R'Us as you shop with your daughter's mother, eye contact, "FAJITAS", and more.
Long story short, Ross' obsession pays off and goes down in television history as one of the greatest love stories of all time. But ONTD knows better. Ross is a "Nice Guy" who is entitled, jealous, manipulating, and selfish. What kind of man makes a woman give up a job in Paris for him?
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Ted Mosby, How I Met Your MotherObject of Obsession: Robin ScherbatskyIn the very first episode of the series, Future Ted describes the night he meets Robin. "Where is she!?" he laments to Barney in a flash back, "I just can't say hi, I'm going to wait until she goes to the bathroom and strategically place myself by the jukebox." He describes Robin after their first date as his dream woman, using her distaste for olives as her the single most important detail that Robin is his "future wife." He steals a blue french horn from a restaurant as a way to get invited into her apartment, and blurts out, "I love you!" and asks, "When you tell this story to your friends, can you not use the word psycho?" and also, "It sucks that you can't tell a woman you just met you love her!"
What ensues for that psychotic first encounter is a lot of Robin telling Ted she doesn't want to date him, doesn't want to live with him, and doesn't want to marry him. All while she falls in love with and marries his best friend, and Ted continues to fuck, date and propose to other women. He never stops pining for Robin, even to the point that he falls in love with, impregnates, twice, and marries a wonderful women named Tracy. Not even in a different episode does Tracy die and Ted tell his children it's always been Robin. They encourage his psycho obsession and tell him to go get her!
And we're supposed to swoon? Think that Robin and Ted are soulmates? When she repeatedly told him she didn't want to get married or have children and he continued to disrespect her by begging her to date him and be the mother of his children. Pass.
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Noel Crane, FelicityObject of Obsession: Felicity PorterOkay, so, I haven't exactly finished "Felicity" yet, I'M STILL ON SEASON THREE! AGH. But Noel Crane is the WORST. He is at his peak of "Nice Guy" syndrome in season one. Noel is Felicity's RA, which is how she ends up confiding in her the deepest thoughts and feelings she has as an 18 year old uprooted from CA at NYU. She followed a fellow classmate from HS to NYU to be in his life (Season 1 Felicity is DEFINITELY a "Nice Girl," but thankfully she grows out of it and is a normal person by the halfway mark of the season). She is CONSTANTLY in Noel's room bitching about loving Ben, and somehow, Noel is able to fall in love with her through that. While he has a girlfriend. His girlfriend comes to visit for Thanksgiving, and Noel gets jealous of Felicity living her life, and confronts her in the bathroom. They end up making out, while his girlfriend is literally in the next room. He does the "honorable thing" and breaks up with his girlfriend, and he and Felicity begin to date.
Eventually, Noel's insecurities about Felicity's feelings for Ben get to him, and he can't get over the fact that Felicity wanted to go on a road trip instead of going to Berlin with him. They break up, but Noel spends majority of the series pining for Felicity even getting into a quickie marriage to prove he's a "tough guy."
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Jack Ballard, ScandalObject of Obsession: Olivia PopeScott Foley really is type cast.
Jack Ballard literally falls in love with Olivia KNOWING THE WHOLE GODDAMN TIME that she is in love with ONTD Fuckboy Enemy #1 President Fitzgerald Grant. He continues to belittle, manipulate MURDER HER BEST FRIEND'S HUSBAND, ATTEMPT TO MURDER HER FATHER, and undermine Olivia's choice, eventually pressuring her to take him with her as she goes off the grid. He tells her, he's chill with fucking her even though she's in love with another man, but actually isn't.
Luckily, Jack took his head out of his ass in the current mid-season finale and told Olivia the fuck off and that he loves himself and will no longer be second fiddle. It was extremely hot. Hopefully he'll stick to his guns in the second half of the season, but doubtful.
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George O'Malley, Grey's AnatomyObject of Obsession: Meredith GreyFirst off, RIP George. I'll start this section by saying I was WRECKED when he died. But he still belongs on this list.
Second, let's not let the fact that George is dead make us forget that George was a "Nice Guy." Meredith's obvious Daddy and Mommy issues made her a ideal prey for a "nice guy" like George. He gained Meredith's trust, offering to be the man she could rely on. He helped her study, listened to her when she vented about being the mistress to their boss, and eventually, when Meredith was vulnerable and drunk, took her to bed. This led to the demise of their friendship, and while they continued to work together, nothing was ever the same.
Enter Callie Torres, the next woman George fucked over. Callie was an outspoken, independent woman who fell hard for George, and through events I no longer remember, George ended up fucking his best friend Izzy (who was still grieving from her fiance's death, also Victim #3), ruining his marriage to Callie.
But through all this, and his unfortunate death being hit by a bus saving a woman (LOL, NICE GUY!), we're supposed to remember George as a good person who would do anything for his friends. Nah, George ain't shit and is a disgusting POS.
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Xander Harris, Buffy the Vampire SlayerObject of Obsession: Buffy SummersXander is the NUMBER 1 reason why I stopped watching Buffy. I could not handle is pathetic ass always moping that Buffy was in love with a vampire and not him. His constant need to "protect" Buffy was gross, SHE IS THE FUCKING VAMPIRE SLAYER, I THINK SHE CAN HANDLE HERSELF. SHE DOESN'T NEED YOUR PUNK ASS FOLLOWING HER GETTING IN THE WAY.
Since Xander is so awful, I can't write a detailed descriptions of his fuckery. But if you watched even one episode, it's not hard to see that Xander is perhaps the worst "Nice Guy" of them all.
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Dan Humphrey, Gossip GirlObject of Obsession: Serena Van der Woodsen (or Blair Waldorf, depends on the season)"When Prince Charming found Cinderella's slipper they didn't accuse him of having a foot fetish." -Dan Humphrey
Where to begin with this one. Dan has been obsessed with Serena through the entirety of high school, and as a way to get her to notice him, starts a gossip website (much like ONTD), called "Gossip Girl." It's an anonymous website where bored, right, upper east side teenagers can send in tips of the popular kid's doings. All the tips are collected and posted with witty commentary voiced by Kristen Bell. Throughout the entire series, you never know Dan is Gossip Girl, so it's really fucking creepy when you find out in the end that Dan has been posting disgusting details about his, his sisters, Serena's, and her friend's sex lives.
Towards the end of the series, the writers completely redid the history of Dan's character (presumably to keep exes Blake Lively and Penn Badgley away from each other on set) and it wasn't actually Serena that Dan has been in love with the whole time, it was her BFF/Frenemy, Blair Waldorf. So he was actually using Blair's best friend, as a way to squeeze himself into Blair's orbit and make her fall in love with him. Gross.
Somehow, the writers were able to turn the tables AGAIN, and make Dan/Serena end game. Dan manipulates Serena and stops her from getting clean.mp3 from the drama of the upper east side. He claims that he's never stopped being in love with her, and Serena is strong and turns him down. BUT LIKE A CREEP HE IS, he sticks his manuscript for an unreleased chapter of his book into Serena's luggage. She reads it, and cancels her trip to LA. She learns he was Gossip Girl the whole time, forgives him, and marries him. Gross.
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Rafael Solano, Jane the VirginObject of Obsession: Jane VillanuevaYeah, yeah, both of Jane's suitors are not worth a damn and the ship Jane/Independence is far superior. That doesn't stop her from having "Nice Guy" Rafael waiting in the wings (thank you
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vanouria for pointing this out). Rafael met Jane years ago when he was just a "Fuck Boy," kissed her and then never called her again. He got married, survived cancer, and some how transitioned into a "Nice Guy."
Present day. Jane is accidentally artificially inseminated with Rafael's frozen sperm, intended for his wife, Petra. She conceives and decides to keep the baby, telling Rafael and Petra that she wants them involved in the baby's life. Rafael ends his marriage to Petra and goes after his baby mama Jane, because there's no better reason to fall in love and be with someone than pregnancy, am I right? Rafael's affection leads Jane to end her engagement and convinces Jane that the two of them are a family and should get married. He proposes (IN PUBLIC) without ever discussing marriage with Jane, and gets pissed when she says no. More fuckery happens, but I don't want to put it all under a spoiler cut, so just watch the series.
Rafael is by far the bigger "Nice Guy" on the series because he always felt he was entitled to Jane and her affection, rather than working to earn it. He purposely manipulated Jane to stay away from Michael, turning Michael into the authorities when MICHAEL SAVED HIS SON. Then lied about it to Jane's face, after Michael found out the truth. Rafael never respected Jane's wishes when she said she needed space, always pressuring her in the name of "fighting for his family."
The series is still on going, so maybe the writers will find a way to redeem Rafael. That's why he's just an honorable mention.
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ONTD, tell me YOUR most loathed TV "Nice Guys."
